Seven Habits of Chronically Unhappy People

8 Feb 2016



I often teach about happiness and what has become exceedingly clear is this: There are seven habits that chronically unhappy people have mastered. 


According to Psychology Today, University of California researcher Sonja Lyubomirsky states: "40 percent of our capacity for happiness is within our power to change."


If this is true and it is, there's hope for us all.  There are billions of people on our planet and clearly some are truly happy.  The rest of us bounce back and forth between happiness and unhappiness depending on the day.


Throughout the years, I've learned there are certain traits and habits chronically unhappy people seem to have mastered.  But before diving in with you, let me preface this and say: we all have bad days, even weeks when we fall down in all seven areas.  


The difference between a happy and an unhappy life is how often and how long we stay there.  Here are the seven qualities of chronically unhappy people:


1. Your default belief is that life is hard. 


Happy people know life can be hard and tend to bounce through hard times with an attitude of curiosity versus victimhood.  They take responsibility for how they got themselves into a mess, and focus on getting themselves out of it as soon as possible.


Perseverence towards problem-solving versus complaining over circumstances is a symptom of a happy person.  Unhappy people see themselves as victims of life and stay stuck in the "look what happened to me" attitude versus finding a way through and out the other side.


2. You believe most people can't be trusted. 


I won't argue that healthy discernment is important, but most happy people are trusting of their fellow man.  They believe in the good in people, versus assuming everyone is out to get them.  Generally open and friendly towards people they meet, happy people foster a sense of community around themselves and meet new people with an open heart.


Unhappy people are distrustful of most people they meet and assume that strangers can't be trusted.